“The older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things – that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.” -Titus 2:3-5
Career mentorship is a big thing nowadays, but what about life or spiritual mentorship?
I never had an older sister, but I always I wished I had, because there is something to be said about getting advice and guidance from someone who has walked the path before you. Mothers are valuable for this, but there are things we often don’t feel comfortable sharing with our moms (especially when we’re teens and teenagers and think that our parents are out to destroy our lives!).
I have been blessed with wiser, godly, older women who have been a wealth of wisdom for me. They’ve shared their advice on dating, marriage, child-rearing and so much more.
But the key in all of this is that we, as young women, must be willing to listen. Because for a while, I wasn’t willing to listen. I didn’t want to know how to be a good wife or insider tips on how to raise children well. I wanted a career and success more than I wanted to know how to be a homemaker, wife or mother.
Although there is nothing wrong with having a good career or seeking out career advice, there is something to be said for training to be a godly wife and mother from a young age. And this is one type of schooling best learned from experience of those who have gone before us. We can read books and blogs about marriage, child rearing and dating, but the best advice often comes from people who know us – people who we’ve seen go through these stages. There is something so valuable in seeing a Godly marriage lived out in your church or family, and to actually be in someone’s home to see how a mother speaks and interacts with her children.
So, take the time to build friendships with women who are older and in different stages of life than you are. Offer to baby-sit. Ask the difficult questions – like if you see a weakness in your personality that may negatively impact your marriage, don’t be shy about asking if a married friend overcame something similar. As they say, do something today that your future self will thank you for.