A lot of us girls have wish lists for our future husbands. But then the question becomes: would the kind of man you’re describing on that list choose the woman you are today? For example, if you have on your list “studies the Bible regularly” and yet you rarely study your Bible, you’ll probably be on two different spiritual levels. Or if you want a church-going man, yet you only attend church on the holidays, then that may cause its own set of obstacles.
So, if you want someone like the man described in 1 Timothy 3 – someone who is temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach, not given to win, not violent, not greedy for money, but gentle, not quarrels, not covetous, and one who rules his own house well, then you also have similar traits.
Now, I’m not saying that you need to be an exact copy of the man you hope to marry, but as Paul writes, a wife of such a man must be reverent, not slanderous, temperate and faithful in all things.
Ladies, we spend a lot of time day dreaming and praying about our future husbands. And I’m sure we all want them to be Godly men who are active in church, read their Bible regularly and pray. But in turn, we must also nurture those habits and traits in ourselves. To be the kind of woman that would be compatible – and equally yoked – with the kind of man on that wish list (and in 1 Timothy 3).