Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man do not go, lest you learn his ways and set a snare for your soul. -Proverbs 22:24-25
There is a saying that goes, “Show me your five closest friends and I’ll tell you who you are.” As humans, we tend to become like the people we surround ourselves with. Teens and teenagers are especially prone to peer pressure, constantly striving to blend in.
Look at your friends objectively today. Do they show characteristics that you want to emulate yourself? Does she truly follow Christ or is she one type of person in church and another kind of person outside of church? Do they apply themselves to their work and schooling or are they quick to skip out on responsibilities to have fun in the form of drinking or even drugs? Does she have your back or would she not hesitate to stab you in the back to make herself look good? Do they tend to blame you for everything, constantly putting you down and “teasing” you in a malicious way?
Notice most of these questions gravitate towards the negative – that’s because it’s difficult to spot the red flags, especially in relationships we’ve invested a lot of time in. But toxic friendships and friends with negative attitudes or bad habits will drag you down so quickly you won’t even recognize you’ve wandered off your God-chosen path before it’s too late. So, take stock of your friendships and make sure that the five people you most often surround yourself with will bring you up, not take you down.